7 MAJOR LIES MEN TELL WOMEN
Why do men lie?
There are lies men tell in a relationship that women ignore, or don’t pay attention to. Majority of those lies are excuses that are over looked and accepted. Yes, we are humans, people have life and they deserve a break. But not when that break and excuses comes at the expense of your happiness. Why continue to give chances to someone who constantly hurt you? Someone who can smoothly captivate you with his words, not actions? Most women fall in love easily with what they ‘hear’, not what they ‘see’, which is sad. This article will elaborate 7 lies men tell, I bet you are familiar with them all.
1. I’m Single
A lot of men fall in this category, having a full-blown relationship/marriage, and acting single on social media or in real life. They are audacious and only care about themselves, you should be conscious and take things slow before jumping into bed with such men. How do I know a man who is in a committed relationship? It’s actually not so difficult to figure out, here’s how to know if he’s taken;
- He rarely calls, or prefers to do the calling, hence he’s unreachable sometimes
- He’s barely available to spend the night with you
- He has some mysterious roommate, or says he lives with his sister
- Always going out of town for work
- He’s secretive, and private
- Never invites you to his place
- Constantly lying and making excuses not to meet when you want to…
- He meets you once or twice a week, sometimes not at all.
- Emotionally unavailable
There are several other clues that shows he’s not available, but these are the major ones.
2. I’m working Late
Is he really working late? Maybe he is, but there’s always a way to find out. He should be able to reach out to you on the night he claims to be working, he should be reachable when you want to have a brief convo with him. ‘Working late’ has become the easiest excuse to give when he doesn’t want to see you, or when he has other plans that doesn’t involve you. I’m not insinuating that every man who says ‘I’m working late’ is lying, but majority are and they will continue to make this silly excuse as long they get away with it.
3. I love you
Isn’t this the most common romantic line ever, used by anyone who may not have a future relationship goal in mind. It’s a magical word that can instantly put a smile on your face, and make you have butterflies in your stomach. Watch out for men who tell you these magical word in a few days, they just want to get laid and have no intention in being in a relationship with you. Anyhow, someone who loves you will act like it and you will definitely know if he truly does. Relying on words alone is naïve, a man who loves you will show he’s interested in you and will invest in the relationship.
4. You’re mine, I’m yours
This line is used by manipulators and narcissistic in achieving their aim of making you believe they have this special bond with you. When someone use such line, RUN! He’s a liar who wants to control you, manipulate you and may even abuse you. It could sound sweet at first, especially when he whispers ‘You’re mine’ while he makes passionate love to you, but it could also scream ‘creepy’ to someone else. You can jokingly say ‘Lets wait to say such words on our wedding day’, and see his reaction. A nice guy who is just being sweet will smile and agree with you, but expect the opposite reaction from a narc.
5. She’s just a friend
Is there a lady always hanging around your significant other, claiming to be his friend and he says the same? In most cases, he’s lying and they’re probably hooking up. If he has a female friend/friends he sees occasionally, and at work that’s understandable. But someone he spends so much time with, even more than he spends with you should be questionable. Security matters in a relationship, if you feel insecure and your instinct tells you that lady hanging around your man is not just a friend, then you should listen to it.
6. You are special, and my forever
Isn’t this your favorite romantic line? Words of affirmation is a powerful tool used by manipulators. Thence, if your ‘Love language’ is ‘Words of affirmation’, you will easily fall in love with smooth talkers that has no intention of being in a committed relationship with you. If you are really special and his forever, why hasn’t he introduced you to his friends and family? Why is he not supportive when you need him the most? And most importantly, why is he not committed to you yet? That being said, if his words don’t show in his actions, stop entertaining him.
7. You can tell me anything, I won’t Judge
This is the biggest lie any man will say to you, majority of them can’t handle sensitive and deep information and will definitely judge. He acts cool, but deep down he’s wondering why you spill such details to him. Don’t share anything you are not ready to share with anyone, make sure you trust him before sharing your secrets with him. Although, not all secrets need to be in open, keep some for yourself, it makes you mysterious and safe.
Some manipulators will use the details you share with them against you, and can easily achieve their aim through those info.
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