7 SIGNS HE WON’T COMMIT TO YOU
It’s frustrating being in a relationship for a long time without commitment. Everything may look perfect to your friends, but deep down you know it isn’t, and you wish for something much better. You questioned about his commitment, when is he ever going to commit? Do I need to wait for a very longtime to find out? Sometimes, you wish you have answers or can find a clue to clarify these doubts. Well, I will write about some clues that will clarify those doubts.
Without further ado, let’s elaborate on 7 signs that he won’t commit to you
1. He’s Irresponsible:
Irresponsibility can be apparent; It doesn’t require a smart ass to figure out if someone is not responsible. Can he keep a job? Does he prefer drinking with his friends all night than working on an important project? Is he usually online searching for other women? Can he hush up about the secret you told him, or will spill it to the next available person the minute you leave? His irresponsible act should not be accepted and accommodated.
2. He can’t keep his words:
I wrote about this in one of my articles, “If he can’t keep his words, he won’t commit to you”. His word is his bond. If he doesn’t do what he says, he doesn’t value your relationship, or respect you. Does he keep his words with his friends and family? Is he always there for them, but not you? If both answers are yes, you should be worried, and see this to be another clue about his lack of commitment.
Maybe he doesn’t notice he acts this way; some people are unaware of their insensitive behavior because nobody ever points it out. You don’t have to be silence about such behavior, pointing it out to him will make him realize what he’s doing to you and could turn things around.
3. He can’t commit to a schedule:
Committing to schedule may not seem relevant to you, but it signifies lack of commitment and a flakey behavior if he can’t stick to a plan. It may be dinner plans, movies or an event you’ve been trying to see. Canceling last minute regularly or busy with something else proves he doesn’t take you seriously. And if he doesn’t take you seriously, how can he commit to you?
4. He ignores ‘The talk”:
Ignoring future plans is another sign that he won’t commit to you. “The talk” means commitment or marriage conversations, is fine to bring it up if he doesn’t make any attempt to do it. Majority of women don’t like to ignite such conversations, because it makes them appear desperate. On the contrary, you are curious, wants to be ascertained what the future holds, and being direct about it is not desperate.
A friend of mine drove her boyfriend to the courthouse one day, she was tired of waiting for a proposal. When they arrived at the courthouse, she told her boyfriend “We are getting married today and we will live happily ever after. However, if this is something you don’t want, I understand. But we will have to go our separate ways”.
Surprisingly, he agreed! And was excited about the idea, and told her he has been thinking about it. They got married, and have 3 beautiful kids now. Despite what my friend did seems desperate, it all worked out and she doesn’t have to be agonize anymore or resent him for making her feel insecure about the future.
Anyhow, is better to be assured, and indisputable about where he stands with you.
5. His family doesn’t know you:
Family is important, they come first in a lot of people’s life. If he’s the type that loves his family, and put them first, then he should already introduce you to them. If he hasn’t, then what’s stopping him? Have you suggested visiting his family? If he refuses, and insist he’s not ready to introduce you to them, then he won’t commit to you anytime soon. Introducing you to his family should be his priority if he has intention of committing to you someday.
6. He doesn’t include you in his plans:
Including you in his plans should be something he does without pressure. A man who truly loves you and wants to commit to you, will make plans with you, ask for your opinions about certain issues and would be happy if you could assist him in achieving his goals. If he’s being secretive, sneaky and very private, he’s obviously not committed to you, and doesn’t have any intention to do that. What are his future plans? Do you have an idea? Does he share his plans with you?
You can always ask him, he’s probably afraid to share it with you because you may not approve. Nevertheless, make it clear to him that you would like to be involved and be aware about his future plans.
7. Your instinct tells you “he won’t”:
Women’s instincts are very powerful, right, and shouldn’t be ignored. Sometimes, it’s difficult to follow this instinct because you are so in love, and don’t want to lose him. Well, you know him better than any one and deep down, you are convinced he’s with you just for fun. Then again, you want to be patient, maybe he will change his mind about commitment. But what if he doesn’t? Are you willing to wait for forever before you realize that he will never commit to you? Moreover, is logical to trust your instinct, because it will lead you to someone much better and right for you.
Bottom Line
If you are with someone genuine with good intentions, he will easily commit to you when the time is right. He may not put a ring on your finger immediately, but you will know he’s there for the long haul. He will show you how much you mean to him, and his actions will match every word he expresses to you. Introducing to his friends and family will be something he is excited to do, reason being he’s excited to flaunt who he cherishes to people he cares about.
Discussing future plans with you will be an act he enjoys, and he would want to share everything with you and treats you as his equal. Is such a man out there? Yes, he is! But the only way for you to meet him is to be ready for him. And the first way to do that, is to be free from toxic relationships. Falling in love with yourself will make you realize you deserve so much better, and that is the self confidence you need to make a decision that will be right for you and your future.
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